Happy Thursday! It’s almost the weekend and boy are we ready for a small break! Ou-Texas is this weekend, can we get a Boomer Sooner? Junior is excited to watch football with his dear friends this weekend, and Bernadette is ready to cheer on her daughter’s alma matter school, The University Of Oklahoma! Boomer! Bernadette starts the show with a poem she found in our first guest, Shelby Scarbrough’s new book Civility Rules! We have a great show in store with Von Eaglin at the half, so let’s get started!
Shelby Scarbrough is the author of “Civility Rules!” and an authority on protocol. She’s worked with U.S. presidents and foreign leaders including Ronald Reagan, George H.W. Bush, Gerald Ford, Jimmy Carter, Richard Nixon as well as international leaders Queen Elizabeth, Margaret Thatcher and Nelson Mandela. Her diverse career includes government affairs, international relations, entrepreneurship, philanthropy and fundraising. In 1990, she founded Practical Protocol, a special-events management and business-protocol training organization. Scarbrough served as the global board chairman for the Entrepreneurs’ Organization, a network of 12,000 entrepreneurs around the world.
Being civil in this kind of world is respecting others, being empathetic, being compassionate, and so much more. 10 years ago Shelby started her journey towards turning everyone civil. She started writing exclusively about political civility and went from there. Shelby found that she could not find much political civil common ground, as the government is not designed to allow much civility if people disagree. Bernadette brought up the topic of the past presidential debate, where our country was humiliated. We the people were publicly disrespected by both sides, as no one won the debate that night, but someone lost. Us. An aspect of being civil is trying to understand other people’s point of view and experiences.
Intelectual humility is when we come to the table saying we have so much self esteem that we can promote a point of view, but we still believe that we could be wrong. We need to find that teeter totter in the middle where we can listen to learn. Things change and go out of style, but being courteous never will. The best way to understand one another is to ask clarifying questions. Humility isn’t thinking less of ourselves, but thinking of ourselves less. Disagreement is how we achieve the goals of issues. Be civil!
Von Eaglin is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor and works with two group practices in the Dallas area. He is a certified couple relationship trainer and sees a wide range of clients addressing men’s issues, anger management, abuse, and addiction; just to name a few. He is also a doctoral candidate at the University of North Texas in the Counseling and Higher Education Department. His Ph.D. research focuses on on couple relationships dialogue. You can find him at his website or follow him on Instagram @VonTalks.
The Truths and Myths About Dysfunctional Relationships
Dysfunction in relationships is more negativity than positivity. There is often a lot of high tensions, gaslighting, high ego, and fragility in relationships that are dysfunctional. Bernadette brings up that it is hard to be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist. Bernadette says that she has never cheated in a relationship but she never will judge someone else. We never know what is going on behind closed doors, so we can not judge. Dysfunctional relationships are often tumultuous with very high highs and very low lows. To find out if your relationship is dysfunctional, be sure to listen to both of Von’s segments!
A big thank you to our guests, Shelby Scarbrough and Von Eaglin! Click here to pre-order Shelby’s latest book, Civility Rules, available on November 17th.
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