Happy Thursday!

It's dysfunctional relationship day here at One Life Radio! Bernadette speculates over 50% of the population struggle with their relationships. Renaldo guesses 98%! We have a great show in store with Denna Babul and Von Eaglin, so let's jump right in!

Denna Babul

Denna Babul is a relationship expert, author, TV personality and public speaker. She is the Founder of the Fatherless Daughter Movement, and an award-winning author of “The Fatherless Daughter Project: Understanding Our Losses and Reclaiming Our Lives.” In Denna’s latest book “Love Strong: Change Your Narrative, Change Your Life, and Take Your Power Back!” she uses her years of experience as a relationship coach and her personal experience to give people with relationship dilemmas a guide to taking their power back. Through her work, Denna has helped thousands of clients get the love they want.

How to Love Someone Dealing with A Mental Health Crisis

It is possible to have a relationship with someone dealing with a mental health crisis. 1 in 5 people have a mental illness! Mental illness looks like many different things. If you are in a relationship with someone struggling with mental illness, you will typically feel it in your gut first. COVID-19 is definitely making dating harder. Denna says to never call a woman crazy! Typically, crazy is just passionate. It is about how to funnel that passion into something healthy. After a relationship, women are typically left looking for themselves because they put so much into someone else. Narcissism is pretty big in our society. When you can't find out who you are, so when you can't find out where you start and end, you experience confusion.Denna says that most people don't know that they are a narcissist or have BPD, so the beginning of the relationship is typically easy. People don't love to go to therapy, because they associate therapy with craziness. When writing "Love Strong," Denna wanted people to look at their past and present. Find a relationship mentor and ask them all your relationship questions! Bernadette asks how you can know when your partner has a mental health issue. Denna says that anxiety, fear, or withdrawing is mild, but once someone has a thought to end their life, you need to step in. Go to Denna's website and take the free quiz about how strong you're loving!

Von Eaglin

Von Eaglin is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor and works with two group practices in the Dallas area. He is a certified couple relationship trainer and sees a wide range of clients addressing men’s issues, anger management, abuse, and addiction; just to name a few. He is also a doctoral candidate at the University of North Texas in the Counseling and Higher Education Department. His Ph.D. research focuses on on couple relationships dialogue. You can find him at his website or follow him on Instagram @VonTalks.

Healthy vs Unhealthy Attachments In Relationships

Therapists from a long time ago hypothesized that attachments in romantic relationships stem from how much attachment you formed as a child. Interesting! Your parents play a major role in how you attach to your partner. If your parents were really responsive to you, you typically will have a secure attachment style. Anxious attachment style is when your parents were typically not consistent with their responsiveness. In an adult relationship, that will manifest in a different way. The biggest type of attachment is avoidance attachments, so the parent was very distant at all times. Avoidance manifests in bad ways when adults enter romantic relationships. Don't fret! There are healthy ways for adults to attach in relationships.Someone who is avoidant will avoid contact and generally avoid letting you get too close to them! People who have avoidant attachment style will act out when they want attention in the relationship. They will typically start fights out of nowhere to get attention. That's very unhealthy! Bernadette said relationships should never feel like a game! It is no way to live. Someone who is too attached is someone who has an anxious attachment style. If you are too attached, the other person is setting the tone for the relationship! Get help with your relationship and never be afraid to seek help from a professional!

Thank You!

A big thank you to our guests, Denna Babul and Von Eaglin! To purchase Denna's newest book, "Love Strong," click here! Read more about Denna here! Find more about Von and schedule a session with him here!Thank you to all of our One Life Radio listeners. We truly appreciate each and every one of you, so If you’d like to hear more from One Life Radio, please subscribe to our podcast.If you have any hot ideas or burning questions, email us at info@oneliferadio.com. Bernadette loves hearing from listeners.And, last but never least, thank you to our sponsors. We couldn’t do the show without you; Crazy Water, Sunwarrior, Enviromedica, Flunada, VEGWORLD Magazine, Castor & Pollux, Paleo Magazine, the Well Being Journal and the ISSN. Visit our sponsor page for some great offers just for One Life Radio listeners!