#1308, Workplace Stress, Reaching Out After Awhile

photo of today's two guests, Kip Watson and dewone Bennett

Happy Thursday!

We are almost to the end of the week! Bernadette is filled with energy after her morning workout with One Life Radio resident fitness expert Tina Bernet Allen! We are all blessed here today. Dewone Bennett is here to talk workplace stress. Kip Watson

Dewone Bennett

Dewone Bennett is a Licensed Professional Counselor with two masters degrees and over 12 years of counseling experience. He currently has his own practice, Dewone Bennett Counseling in Dallas, TX. He believes that the key to mental and behavioral success is the ability to master self-awareness and emotional control. You can find Dewone on Instagram @dewone.bennett_counseling.

Workplace Stress From At Home and In The Office

The Office

American's biggest stressors are work related! First we'll talk about working at the office. Especially now with employment rate fluctuating and being up in the air, workplace stress and the stress to get and maintain a job are rising. High demanding jobs can also be really stressful! Money, harassment, and more are other factors that contribute to workplace stress in the office. Another office stressor is trying to find a job with flexible hours, so you can make it to important things like your children's recitals. Harassment especially for women is hard, but Dewone stresses, always say something. The #MeToo movement is still alive and well.When you have workplace stress. you have three choices. First thing you can do is remove yourself from the job. Second is you change it. Apply for promotions that will compensate you accordingly. The third thing you can do is to accept it. It is unfortunate that we have to be faced with choices that affect our wallet, but always do what is best for your well being and psyche. Bernadette asks how to measure stress and when to know when to take action. When you see yourself starting to have bad habits, like over eating or over sleeping, look back at your life, so keep it real. In preparation for going back into the office after COVID-19, start introducing yourself back into society gradually, so you won't get socially shocked when going back to a desk.

Home

Workplaces expect productivity to increase since people are being able to work from home in some jobs. That puts stress on people! Sitting at your computer for 12 hours at a time versus 8 When you work at home, there is a key factor that is being removed from the "workplace." If someone is an introvert, they used to get their socialization from going to their 9-5! Now, personability is being removed. 46% of people who work from home are more stressed than 25% percent that work in the office at the same job. Working from home affects your habits! Whatever you may have done to get yourself ready for the work day is gone, so their energy is down. Structure is lost when working from home. We also must realize that familiarity breeds contempt. Working from home could cause discrepancies and issues in your romantic and children relationships. Sometimes we just need a break!In a world where we have to deal with supervisors making stronger demands, do not be afraid to go to HR. Find a safe place at work, whether it is at home or in the office. Manage your interpersonal conflict and don't let it be brushed aside. The first thing you want to do when having a problem with your coworker is to know your feelings. Learn how and why you feel that way. And at the end of the day, you might just have to stay away from that person. Avoid gossiping! Ask if the information you are about to be told is useful and factual. That will keep you out of workplace conflicts, whether it's at home with your partner or in the office with your boss.

Kip Watson

Kip Watson is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor, Sports Psychology Professional, and Certified High Performance Coach. She holds two Master’s degrees and has nearly 20 years of experience working with athletes, coaches, families, and corporate teams. Kip is a Former professional athlete and a mother of two in college. Follow Kip on twitter at @kipfit. Kip is a longtime friend of One Life Radio, and a longtime friend of Bernadette's.

Contacting People From The Past During A Crisis

These past few months have given a lot of people time to reflect upon the past. This can be good or bad. Reflecting upon the past can make people cry, but it's not all sad tears. Kip reflects about missing her two children who are away in college. Kip encourages that you do to need to communicate to your child every single time you talk that you miss them, because your children are not responsible for your emotions. During COVID, a lot of people have reached put to people that they typically wouldn't talk to... especially exes. Bernadette asked if that is okay. Kip tends to lead towards no. Turn to people who can offer healthier companionship. It's better to use self control than to jump to someone for instant gratification.Let's talk about sex! Don't reach out to your ex for an instant gratification booty call. Give yourself time to feel sorry for yourself then reevaluate the desire you had. Sit with your desire and you'll find that it will subside. We typically don't remember how bad a bad relationship was when we are out of the relationship. We forget the paint and turmoil and remember the fun and gushy. People want to rekindle what was good. During times of crisis, it's typical of people to want to have more good times. Be appreciative of those who reached out to you that were positive and reminisce the good, not the bad. Be wary and make sure you're reminiscing on the healthy.

Thank You!

A big thank you to our guests, Kip Watson and Dewone Bennett! To find more about Kip, click here! Interested in having a session with Dewone? Find him here!Thank you to all of our One Life Radio listeners. We truly appreciate each and every one of you, so If you’d like to hear more from One Life Radio, please subscribe to our podcast.If you have any hot ideas or burning questions, email us at info@oneliferadio.com. Bernadette loves hearing from listeners.And, last but never least, thank you to our sponsors. We couldn’t do the show without you; Crazy Water, Sunwarrior, Enviromedica, Flunada, VEGWORLD Magazine, Castor & Pollux, Paleo Magazine, the Well Being Journal and the ISSN. Visit our sponsor page for some great offers just for One Life Radio listeners!