Aug 1st 2017 - Victim Mentality & When to Ask for Help
Today we talk with Robin Perry Braun about having a victim mentality, and we also talk with Dr. Richard Enander about when it is okay to ask for help.Here are notes from Robin:What is a real victim?
- A child is a victim if someone is older and/or larger and they are helpless or without resources/dependent on someone else or the perpetrator and should have been protected.
- An adult who is helpless in a situation due to circumstances or lack of power. (Natural disasters)
- Dependency or weakness where they are less than the stronger person. Most victims are not clinically realy victims, they chose their circumstance.
What are signs one is choosing to be a victim?
- Someone else is always to blame for their pain or circumstances, they never accept responsibility.
- They are continually complaining of being treated unfairly.
- They stay in a situation after it has been revealed to be harmful.
- They are trauma bonded (a choice) and return even after they are “rescued."
- They like being a martyr – it meets a need.
- They try to get you to feel sorry for them.
Quantum Physics says we create our reality corporately and individually. A victim believes they have little power or control over their life so that is what they manifest. Statistics show that a real victim will attract being revictimized over and over again – especially sexually. It is the law of attraction – they believe they are victims so they keep attracting perpetrators reinforcing the belief they are victims.Dr. Richard Enander explains why people may not know when to ask for help:
- People may not want to come across as needy or being a victim, so they don’t ask for help when they need it and become overwhelmed.
- “Shoulds and Coulds” => Belief that “I should be able to do this on my own”
- Acceptance that we are flawed: not possible to be able to handle every situation.
